People Are so ZENnoying

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If you see another picture of another perfectly fit person striking a next to impossible yoga pose on a beach with the sun casting a perfect shadow on the sand that seems to make out the phrase “you can never BE this” you’re probably going to vomit. Maybe even break out the potato chips and ice cream just to show those f*ckers! Or maaaybe a gif of a quote that reads something like, oh, umm… “love life and life will love you back” is what really gets you fired up? Did it?
Or maybe a status update that reads something like “Best weekend EVAR, meditation and a juice cleanse really helps center me, you should try it!”

You’ve got to be kidding me. Get a room with yourself.

You’re not alone in that feeling of disgust. I mean, there’s got to be something hiding out behind the facade of serenity, right? Nobody is that happy or healthy. That new age bullshit is simply a trend that they are milking for all it’s worth – they’ve got to be!

I can relate. Before my venture into a healthier lifestyle, I thought it ridiculous that people chose a life with no “fun” involved. Smoothies, meditation, Yoga, Kombucha…oh, GTFO. None of it made sense to me. Why not enjoy your time on earth?! Live it up! Eat what you want! Drink what you want! Exercise IF you want! Life is short and It’s way too short to worry so damn much about things like gut flora, food allergies or being grateful. Late night burritos, all night inebriations and sleeping late was the extent of my spiritual experience. And the only positions I made that even got close to yoga would happen in a strangers bed.

But I (along with my rad clients) have realized some very important things:

  • That the “do what you want lifestyle” is not sustainable
  • That when we live a healthier life, we feel better and everyone around us feels better
  • That we can better deal with pain issues by exercising and eating a healthy diet
  • That diet and meditation has a direct and positive
    effect on mental health
  • That we REALLY enjoy waking up without a hangover
  • That our children are learning from our good examples
  • That those who post pictures of yoga poses on a beach might just be … proud of themselves and that’s okay!
  • That less sh*tty food and toxic alcohol and drugs = much greater clarity
  • That we have much more energy and therefore get a helluva lot more done
  • That the SAD (Standard American Diet) is a plague
  • That we have greater confidence when we live a healthy and centered life
  • That resentment is merely re-sending the negative back around like a psychological boomerang
  • That I truly love seeing anyone attempting to better themselves. *Unless they are pushing useless supplements or fads to thicken their wallet – not cool. If that’s you, just stop
  • That change is an inside game that is helped greatly with mentors

So, I now pick my battles wisely. Choosing to be frustrated by others and our perception of their lives is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.

Be well.

 

 

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Christopher Hostetler, founder Do Not Die Young Coaching

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Struggle with Depression? I Get It.

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I’m not ashamed to admit that I suffer from depression and PTSD. In fact, no one should EVER view these unfortunate ailments as reasons to warrant any shame. We all have our problems in life and it’s the way we choose to deal with them that is most important. While I firmly believe that there are lifestyle choices that can greatly impact the severity of these afflictions on a daily basis, there is no remedy or cure for these maladies.

Note: Always seek professional help with these matters along with supplemental lifestyle changes.

Below are 5 ways that help me keep my head screwed on straight… and these tips could help you, too.

1. I don’t medicate with alcohol

Thinking that alcohol or drugs can help you “get over” the way you’re feeling is nothing short of a recipe for disaster. Alcohol and many drugs (yes, even marijuana) act as depressants and can greatly worsen depression and PTSD. People who suffer from depression and drink a lot have more frequent, severe episodes of depression, and are more likely to contemplate suicide.

Sobriety has been the best choice I have ever made in my life.

2. I don’t medicate with food

 

Like drowning our sorrows in alcohol, it’s also common to sooth our frayed feelings with unhealthy food and drink. There’s nothing wrong with enjoying a comforting cupcake or piece of pizza in moderation while we are feeling down. The problem begins when we start to use food as a “substance” to get us through and help regulate our moods. When we start relying on outside sources to soothe ourselves, we become dependent on those outside sources. Sugar can be detrimental for everyone, especially those who suffer from depression.

Also, knowing what foods that can actually help your mood is priceless. 

3. I don’t medicate with fear 

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Stress and fear of the unknown can be just the trigger(s) someone needs to step into a deeper hole. Learning some coping mechanisms that can be used at the onset of these feelings is crucial in dampening their effect. Incorporating breathing techniques and meditation have been lifesavers for me. Exercise, reaching out to a friend to talk, not expecting perfection and the simple realization that life is often messy can help greatly. 

Our thoughts are not facts.

4. I don’t medicate with self

Self-image

Always worrying about our social identity, accomplishments, failures, etc. will wreak havoc on our perception of ourselves. This can easily turn into a cycle where we don’t feel smart enough, successful enough, thin enough… and so on. Realizing that we control very little in our lives and that more often than not, the cards will fall where they want is an incredibly freeing way to live life.

Many find meditation or prayer to be fantastic tools to put these things into perspective. 

5. I don’t medicate by isolating and staying inside

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When depressed nothing sounds better than staying inside and not answering the phone. There’s no better way to dwell on those thoughts in your head than to isolate yourself and be alone with your misery. By simply going outside and getting moving, you open yourself to different perspectives and to a broader horizon. Getting out in the weather, soaking up some vitamin D and seeing the world is a simple tool to soften the blow of what can be a crippling day. Physical activity has been consistently shown to improve psychological well-being.  

 

Need some suggestions or supplemental support along with your mental health professional,  let’s talk.

Be well.

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Christopher Hostetler, founder Do Not Die Young Coaching

I am the founder of Do Not Die Young Coaching. I have made self evolution through nutrition, lifestyle, and mental and physical wellness my life’s work.

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